Why One Bad Set Can Stall Comedians for Months
Why Most Comedians Don't Actually "Freeze" (Comedy Mindhacks #121)
Have you ever walked off stage convinced you completely froze out there? After something like that, I’ve gone backstage and immediately replayed the entire scene in my head, remembering the awkward pause, the joke that didn’t land, and the milliseconds of silence that somehow felt like eternity. Then, before I’ve even left the venue, I reach the same conclusion countless other comedians have reached after a rough bit or night: “Ugh!!! I froze!!!”
The dangerous part of that thought isn’t necessarily even the thought itself but what comes after. One rough bit eventually turns into a big ol’ story about who I am instead of what happened. Put another way: I don’t evaluate the performance; instead, I start evaluating myself. In due course, then, a bad set can become hard evidence that maybe I’m not confident enough, talented enough, or just not cut out for stand-up. BUT…that’s the old me; that’s what I used to think. Now, I actually don’t think that’s what’s happening at all.
Lately, as I’m keen to do, I’ve been reading some research.1 It deals with how people respond under pressure. One idea has stood out to me that I’ve never really considered before, namely, the distinction between completely shutting down versus entering a state of heightened awareness. In the latter, a heightened state of awareness, what the brain’s doing is rapidly gathering information before deciding what to do next. The more I read, the more I began to wonder if comedians have been misdiagnosing one of the most common experiences in stand-up?!
Think, for example, about what happens during the first thirty seconds of a set. I’m noticing whether the audience looks interested, whether my opener landed, where the booker is sitting, who’s talking at the bar, how I’m holding the mic, how fast I’m speaking, what joke comes next, and so on. It truly an astonishing amount of information for my brain to process all at once. From my brain’s perspective, so to speak, I’ve stepped into an uncertain social environment where acceptance, rejection, embarrassment, and success all suddenly matter. It’s a lot to manage.
Then my timing changes. I hesitate for a moment. I lose my place, rush a transition, or forget the exact wording of a joke I’ve told twenty times before. I walk off stage believing my brain quit on me. Here’s the thing: If I can remember ALL those details afterward, there’s a good chance I never froze or forgot or that my brain never really stopped working in the first place. What if it was simply trying to monitor far more information than it had learned to handle efficiently?
That kinda thought is a massive mental shift! And that reframing alone is able to completely change the problem from believing I froze to hoping it doesn’t happen again. If I realize that my attention was overloaded rather than thinking I froze, suddenly I also have something I can actually improve. Said another way, reframing the problem this way shifts the issue from identity to momentary circumstances and skill. Of all 120+ mindhacks I’ve written about, that’s honestly one of the most liberating mindset shifts I’ve discovered.
Lots of comedians get in their head about things like “freezing up.” My point is: Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” they should ask, “What was my brain doing in that moment?” Again, that’s a HUGE mental shift. This is also one reason I’m such a believer in repetition. Reps don’t just improve jokes, they also reduce decisions. Every transition I rehearse, every callback I refine, and every awkward silence I survive teaches my brain that it doesn’t have to treat the stage like unexplored territory anymore. Automaticity, in other words, replaces overload…even if slowly.
Experienced comedians often look remarkably calm. Or, as many say, they make it look so easy. But I don’t think calmness is the real difference. Most veteran comedians still feel nerves or adrenaline before a show. The difference is that they’ve simply automated thousands of tiny decisions that newer comedians are still making and learning to make, and they’re doing it in real time. They already know where they’ll stand, how they’ll recover when something misses, how long they’ll pause, and where they’ll go next if Plan A falls apart.
Once I started looking at rough sets through that lens, I stopped treating them less like verdicts on my future and more diagnostic tools on my present. If my attention was overloaded, then confidence wasn’t the issue. Needing better systems, more repetitions, and greater automaticity were.
So, if you ever walk off stage thinking, “I froze,” try asking yourself a question: What was my brain actually paying attention to in that moment? That question turns the spotlight away from one’s identity and toward one’s process and that, in turn, gives one a practice plan instead of a reason to quit. Don’t subscribe to the lie that a comedian’s performance reveals who they are. More often than not, it simply reveals what their brain hasn’t automated yet. That’s encouraging because identities are more difficult to change than skills, which are built one repetition at a time.
Now, if you’re looking for a place to build, nurture, and grow your skills, I recently published Comedy Mindhacks: 100 Mental Shifts To Help Comedians & Creatives Succeed for exactly that reason.
This entire book is built around helping comedians identify the mental obstacles that quietly slow their growth and steal their momentum. If this article resonated with you, I think you’ll find a lot more of that inside the book. You can check out sample pages HERE. If you’re not yet a subscriber, use code MH10LIVE at checkout HERE for 10% off. Free subscribers automatically receive 15% off, and paid subscribers receive 35% off because I’m a big believer in rewarding people who invest in themselves. 👉 Click HERE to grab the book.
And if you’re ready to double down in a BIGGER way, consider joining my Comedy Vault. It’s my private collection of premium resources, trainings, workshops, and tools designed to help comedians continue growing long after the initial excitement fades. The first bet gets you into the game. Doubling down is what changes who you become.👉 Click HERE to unlock the Comedy Vault.
See the article “Fear and the Defense Cascade Clinical Implications and Management” from Harvard Review of Psychiatry here: https://journals.lww.com/hrpjournal/fulltext/ 2015/07000/fear_and_the_defense_cascade__clinical.3.aspx.